Everybody in life requires and loves their space and freedom. Regardless whether it’s a man or a woman we all love our identity in life and we all feel proud of that identity. But, unfortunately for a woman things change when she becomes a mother. Unlike men, working mothers have to sacrifice on a lot of things in her life like letting go of her career to look after her child.
For the upbringing of her child the woman stays back in the house. Even though the woman wants to work but she can’t as she feels she would not be a good mother to her child. She would miss on the time with her child if she works. Also, in some cases when working mothers takes a decision to stay back at home for the sake of her child, it’s seen that a woman also goes into depression. As after working for long it gets really difficult to let go of her career and stay back at home.
I know after reading this many of the working mothers would relate to the above fact. And would have faced similar situations in your life. And I wouldn’t agree less. I too was a professional in Infosys and used to love my work. It would give me the space and freedom I required. And I always got that even after I was married. Working always kept me busy and happy as I would get to meet a lot of people too. Life was just the way I always wanted. And it became even more cheerful when I gave birth to my son and became a mother. But, as my son was growing up I felt my life was not the same it used to be. I started feeling too tired managing my work and felt I wasn’t giving enough time to my son. That is when I thought that I would have to choose from my career and my son. Juggling between two things wasn’t the answer to a happy life. So, I took the decision of quitting my job. Being a mother, staying at home and spending more time with my son gave me immense pleasure and the happiness I always wanted as a mother. But then, after a couple of years I started to feel depressed.
I started to miss my work and a lot of questions kept popping in my head like, Will my life be always like this just by being at home and looking after my son? Can’t I be a working mother again and yet be a perfect mother to my son? How nice it would be if I get to work and still get enough time with my son? And many more questions kept popping up in my mind. That is when I thought of being a Teacher. So, I did my Montessori course and joined as a teacher in my son’s school only. Joining as a Teacher gave me again all the happiness I used to get when I used to work before. I got to meet a lot of people and working again kept me active and happy. Since I had joined the same school as my sons. We would go together to school and come back home together. That way I started to get enough time with my son at home. The holidays in school also started to match as when my son would have holidays I too was at home with him. Being a Teacher has changed my life like never before. I have got everything I wanted in life. And, I am loving this new self in me. I have shared my story and I hope it will motivate a lot of you.
So, I would like to tell all womanhood who are mothers, going to be mothers or to those who are married and someday will be mothers, you need not sacrifice on your career or the happiness you get from your work. Don’t be in a situation where you think you will not be a perfect mother to your child if you are a working mothers. There are a lot of options out there now where you can be a working mother and yet be a perfect mother at the same time. You just need to be strong and look for the opportunities available out there.
“Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you”.